Hello all. Hope everyone is having a great time.
Today here *On The Way With Analogs* I am putting up a post titled, " Men do it so do Women" Yeah, it is exactly this only. My previous pick was *Girls do it, so do boys*. But, I decided to amend it. I hope it now definitely charts in soberness list. All winks!
Coming back to the point, this post is about the situations in which sometimes we act so spontaneously that we remain unaware about the impact it is having. For this, I am using two situations from movies relevant in our society to bring the essence I want to convey. I do agree , situation varies from place to place , condition to condition but somehow relatable !!!
A) Dor : The story revolves around a widow belonging to a staunch conservative family, who is put into a restricted way of leading life which every widow should follow like wear simple colors, no jewellery, simple food, no music, pray more, do house hold work and remember always that your husband died, in other way it meant remain sad 24X7, for the entire life. In one scene she is crying and her husband's grandmother (who is also a widow) comes and caress her. In the shot, mother of the dead son a.k.a mother in law comes and scolds her that what is she doing, she has to work and she should never forget that she is a widow etc etc. Listening to this, grand mother says to her - remember, you never know, you could also be a widow anytime, and then ,she well quoted : women suffer because women don't support or become strength of other women.
B) Piku : Brilliant movie. many scenes tend to portray that women have become so because they had to, society forced them to. It has been so integrated in the mentality of women that men will always try to suppress women down, misuse them and exploit them. In the movie, father didn't
want his daughter to marry soon. He wanted her to be more goal oriented and be more of visionary. According to him, women doesn't have to be tagged into marriage as there (only) success story as they are not made just for taking care of home all day and have sex in night.
want his daughter to marry soon. He wanted her to be more goal oriented and be more of visionary. According to him, women doesn't have to be tagged into marriage as there (only) success story as they are not made just for taking care of home all day and have sex in night.
These two actually made me think and I came up with these points:
- We all would agree that their is gender bias-ness. I am not generalizing it but directly or indirectly both men and women are affected by it and are also reason for it.
- Men do it either taking women as a weaker section. Example if a boy is crying, friends will say ' why are you crying, are you a girl!' If a girl is driving, 100% she is going to drive bad, other statements like 'be a man' ; even if a girl achieves her goals it is taken up as double wow ! For example, If a guy achieves prime in his academics, people go like ya, we knew he will ! and same done by a girl, its huge! She overly did the expectations. These actually hit us without realization.
- In case of women, she is given a scenario of "you should be adjusting'. Once you get married, you have to adjust. No matter what happens ! I think, it leads to two possible things : girl become tooo adjusting. Changing her thinking process in a way leading to frustration and regretting her current situation with lot of 'ifs' in life. Or, she becomes totally un -adjusting. In other words, rebellious. They think everyone just wants to use them.
- Lastly, all want equality. All want respect. But somehow, our experiences shape us and it starts from home itself.
I would definitely like to share a a YouTube series which actually shows a part of gender biasness incorporated in us without making us aware.
And I am 200% sure you will get a different perspective over gender biasness once you see this series. Beautifully portrayed. #theglobalgoals production #man'sworld
We all have different perspectives based upon our environment and deep set sub conscious values which are not wrong until we step in other person's shoes.
In the end we all want equality to sustain. Be it the justified equality or equally justice-d or both. RIGHT !!!!!
I am sure situations are different, might be better at some places yet not so sustainable at other. I just want everyone to be free , independent yet inter-dependent souls.
Be it in anyway, have an awesome, blossom day.
Keep rising and shining.